Does Penis Stretching Work? The Truth about ‘Jelqing’
Men’s Health Blogs Does Penis Stretching Work? The Truth about ‘Jelqing’ So, you are going to love this post. Its about ‘the penis stretching exercises’. Does penis stretching work? How effective is ‘jelqing’. Can it make your organ BIG?. Watch the video below Now, the truth is a large number of men have serious problems with the size of their organ. An estimated 45% to 55% of men believe their organ is small (teenie weenieee) in terms of size. Full thanks and salutations to the porn industry, since, men tend to compare their organ sizes with porn stars while watching them do it. Moreover, they a develop a strange complex called as the ‘small penis syndrome’. Furthermore, these men compare the size of their organ with other men, while sharing common spaces in showers and toilets. I mean it really get to the head of these guys. They lose hope, they get depressed and feel their lives are over, fundamentally based on their penis size. They develop whats called as small penis syndrome. Moreover, men with this condition strongly believe and feel that they cannot satisfy their partners in bed. They believe and eventually end up with erectile dysfunction. Consequently, they avoid intimate relationships, and resort to masturbation where the element of judgement from another partner is fundamentally absent. Dr. Shah Dupesh Consultant Andrologist & Sexologist Ready to improve your Reproductive Health? Discuss your concerns in a private setting and get personalized guidance tailored to your needs. Book a Call Book a Call But the TRUTH of the matter is, their organ sizes are actually NORMAL Now, lets discuss a bit about penis size….since this is were most men have a problem. The mean average penis size ranges from about 5 to 5.5 inches when erect. But most men do not know to measure their organ. They end up comparing their size with what they see in the pro, leading to distress, anxiety, depression and a whole host of other issues. So, say you truly have a small size, does penis stretching work? Or does penis lengthening work? We hear all this humbug on these penis lengthening exercise, penis massage blah blah. However, these exercises will not increase the size of your equipment. Sorry to disappoint you. Penis stretching or Jelqing involves rubbing the organ back and forth using lubricants. This pseudoscience claims that repeated penis massage and stretches ends up causing micro tears in the deep tissue of the penis. Moreover, after the minor injuries heal, the scar tissue formed will make the organ feel and appear thicker. But, most people forget to notice that, the penile tissues are not just made of muscles. The penile tissue is made full of ‘neurovasculature’ that is, the organ is filled with blood vessels and nerves. Furthermore, it has 3 erectile tissues inside, the corpora cavernosa and the corpora spongiosum, so, stretching this organ will cause permanent long term damage. Not just, that, their are case reports and studies that suggest that, in men who engage in jelqing or penis stretching organ damage occurs. I have personally seen patients who engage in jelqing & eventually ending up with erectile dysfunction. The last thing you want to do to yourself is self-harm by doing these things. Remember, their are about a 100 factors based on which a women will judge you. And organ size is NOT IMPORTANT. So, please do not worry about your penis size. Visit an andrologist or sexologist near you to get a correct estimate of your organ. Subscribe to our Newsletter This is because a self-estiamtion of your size, by looking at your organ from top-down will make your organ look much smaller than it actually is. In all probability, your organ size is most probably normal. As a bonus point please never use ‘penile extenders’ for stretching your organ. It will cause permanent erection problems, by either incorrect usage or by penis stretching. Penis size can be increased by other methods, like utilizing whats called as a ‘Jess extender’ OR similar devices. But, stretching techniques or stretching devices or other surgical interventions do not work. So, remember 3 things 1. Estimate your size correctly 2. Penis stretching is not required 3. Visit an andrologist for the right treatment with respect to stretching I hope you liked this short post on ‘does penis stretching work’. Pleas drop in your comments below References Veale D, Miles S, Read J, Troglia A, Wylie K, Muir G. Sexual functioning and behavior of men with body dysmorphic disorder concerning penis size compared with men anxious about penis size and with controls: A cohort study. Sexual medicine. 2015 Sep 1;3(3):147-55. Sigalos J, Eleswarapu S, Mills J. HF01-17 PENILE STRETCHING PRACTICES THROUGH TIME AND CULTURE. The Journal of Urology. 2022 May;207(Supplement 5):e217. Related Blogs Recent Blogs Having more doubts? Consult with our doctor Consult with Dr. Shah Leave Your Comment Cancel Reply Logged in as Dr Shah Dupesh. Log out? Δ
Male Fertility Tips to Get Pregnant Fast: The 90-Day Plan
The male fertility tips that work fastest are a sequence, not a list. Book a semen analysis this week. Move to sex three times a week. Fix tobacco, weight and sleep. Then re-test at 90 days, because that is one full sperm cycle.
No Sperm When I Ejaculate? Causes & What to Do
Nothing comes out when you ejaculate? An andrologist explains the real causes of no semen on ejaculation and the exact, treatable steps to fix it.
Lump on Testicle: Causes, Self-Exam & When to Worry
Most lumps on the testicle are harmless. A soft, movable, pea-sized lump that sits separate from the testicle is almost always a benign epididymal cyst. The one to act on is a hard, painless lump felt on the testicle itself. As a practising andrologist in Chennai, I meet this fear almost every day: a man finds a “lump in my balls” in the shower and is convinced, by the time he reaches me, that it is cancer. I understand the panic. So let me settle it plainly — in roughly 8 out of 10 of the men I examine for a scrotal lump, the cause is completely benign: an epididymal cyst, a varicocele, a hydrocele, or a harmless skin cyst. There is one lump I never brush aside, and I will show you exactly how to recognise it. Book a Consultation Most lumps on the testicle are harmless – this guide shows you how to tell which kind you have. Quick Facts Most testicular lumps are benign — spermatoceles, hydroceles, varicoceles and simple cysts are well-recognised non-cancerous causes of a scrotal lump (Rubenstein, 2004). Position is everything — a scrotal ultrasound reliably tells a lump on the testicle (worrying) from one beside it (almost always benign), and cystic fluid from a solid mass (Akin, 2004). The cancer lump is hard and painless — testicular cancer most often shows up as a painless mass on the testicle itself (Singla, 2025; Chong, 2023). Even cancer is highly curable — testicular cancer is the most common solid malignancy in men aged 15–40 (~10,000 US cases a year, mean age 33), and 90–95% are germ cell tumours with excellent survival (Singla, 2025). Sudden, severe pain is the real emergency — testicular torsion needs surgery within about six hours, when the salvage rate is around 90% (Langan, 2022). Where is the lump? Position decides the diagnosis If you remember one thing from this page, make it this: position, position, position. Where the lump sits on your scrotum tells me, before any scan, what it most likely is. I run through three questions with every man who sits across from me. Is it on the skin, beside the testicle, or on the testicle itself? Pinch the lump gently. If it is in the skin of the scrotum — like a small pellet you can roll under your fingertips — it is usually a harmless sebaceous cyst. If it is a soft, distinct pea sitting above or behind the testicle but clearly separate from it, that is the classic epididymal cyst or spermatocele. The lump that earns a same-week scan is the one that feels part of the testicle itself — a firm nodule you cannot separate from the underlying egg-shaped organ. This is exactly why imaging matters. A scrotal Doppler ultrasound differentiates a testicular mass from an extratesticular one, and tells whether it is cystic, solid or complex — the single test that converts “I don’t know what this is” into a clear answer (Akin, 2004). How many lumps, and one side or both? A soft, worm-like fullness on the left side that you feel more when standing is almost always a varicocele. Generalised swelling of one whole side that lets light shine through points to a hydrocele. A single, hard, fixed nodule on one testicle is the pattern I take seriously. If you also notice a general fullness or heaviness rather than a discrete lump, read my guide on what swelling in the testicles actually indicates. The harmless lumps on the testicle (and most lumps are harmless) Let me reassure you with the actual list. The overwhelming majority of intrascrotal lumps are benign — spermatoceles, hydroceles, varicoceles, epidermoid and simple cysts (Rubenstein, 2004). Here is how each one feels in my hands. Epididymal cyst and spermatocele — the movable pea-sized lump This is the lump I diagnose most. The epididymis is the soft, coiled tube that sits behind and above each testicle, storing and carrying sperm. A small fluid-filled sac there is an epididymal cyst; when it contains sperm it is called a spermatocele. Both feel like a smooth, movable pea, sit separate from the testicle, and are painless. Hydroceles and spermatoceles are common benign adult scrotal swellings (Rioja, 2011). Epididymal cysts most often turn up in men aged 20 to 40 and tend to sit there quietly without causing harm; small, symptomless ones are simply watched, and removal is reserved for cysts large enough to bother you (Zhao, 2023). If it is not growing or hurting, I usually leave it alone. An epididymal cyst – a soft, movable, pea-sized lump that sits separate from the testicle and is harmless. Varicocele — the “bag of worms” A varicocele is a tangle of enlarged veins above the testicle, classically described as feeling like a “bag of worms,” more obvious on the left and when you stand. It is genuinely common — found in roughly 12% of men with normal semen, and far more often (around 40%) in men investigated for infertility (Chiba, 2016). A clinic-based study of men over the age of 40 reported a much higher 48% — but that is a selection-biased figure from men already attending a urology clinic for assessment, not the prevalence in the general male population, so I would not read it as “half of all men” (Besiroglu, 2019). Most cause no trouble at all. The reason I check for them is fertility: varicoceles are the commonest correctable cause of low sperm production, so if you are also trying to conceive, see my explainer on whether varicoceles cause infertility and consider a semen analysis. A varicocele – a soft tangle of enlarged veins above the testicle that feels like a ‘bag of worms’. Hydrocele — a soft fluid swelling A hydrocele is a painless collection of fluid around the testicle. It feels soft and smooth, can grow to a surprising size, and characteristically lets light pass through when a torch is held against it (transillumination). It is benign and
Can i use saliva as lube? 2 Facts on using saliva as lube
Men’s Health Blogs Can i use saliva as lube? 2 Facts on using saliva as lube Welcome to Dr Shahs Clinic, in this quick video we are going to answer the question ‘Can i use saliva as lube?’. We will explore the magic of combining sex with saliva (we will see how magical it is!). Jokes apart let move on to the more serious stuff. Doc, can i use saliva as lube?, this is probably the single most common question I get. Its not surprising. An estimated 40% of couples use lubricants (saliva, KY jelly) or otherwise some ridiculous flower scented concoctions. Don’t get me wrong though. Using lubes definitely adds to pleasure for most couples. I mean people use saliva while masturbating, partnered sex, mutual masturbation and what not? Lubes of various varieties are also put into the mix. Moreover, saliva as lube is utilized in men with erectile dysfunction and in women with vaginal dryness However, there are some instances where you probably do not want to use saliva as lube. The best instance being ‘when trying for a child’. Saliva can basically give your sperms a knock-out punch. Studies done as early as the 1980’s have shown that saliva reduces sperm motility by 50% within just 5 mins of exposure. Not just that, by 15 mins of coming in contact with saliva, the sperm motility basically drops to zero. This is because saliva contains numerous substances that can technically ‘kamikaze’ your sperm. So, unless you are planning to use saliva as contraception method (not the best of course) you are probably better off not using saliva a lube when trying to conceive. Moreover, their are few more studies with some interesting observations. Dr. Shah Dupesh Consultant Andrologist & Sexologist Ready to improve your Reproductive Health? Discuss your concerns in a private setting and get personalized guidance tailored to your needs. Book a Call Book a Call Can saliva kill sperm? Oh yeah. Saliva is a sperm terminator In a few other studies, under the light microscope, scientist’s tried placing drops of sperm and drops of saliva beside one another. What did they find? Here again, sperm motility fell withing 5 mins of exposure and in about 15 mins the total sperm motility dropped to ‘0’. Interestingly, the sperms exhibited a kind of ‘shaking movement’ when exposed to saliva (sperms can get scared as well, have some mercy) Moreover, from the context of sexual hygiene, things get a bit more serious. Say….you are single and in a ‘not so committed’ relationship (in other words you do not know if you are going to marry the person), in these specific scenarios, you better watch out for STD’s And boy oh boy, saliva does transmit STI (sexually transmitted infections). In fact saliva can transmit a variety of sexually transmitted infections. Some common infections that can spread to your partner via saliva include 1. Herpes Simplex Virus leading to genital warts 2. Gonorrhea (by kissing and oro-genital sex) 3. Chlamydia (again by oral-penile sex) Subscribe to our Newsletter A beautiful study conducted in Australia called the HIM study has shown clearly that both Gonorrhea and Chlamydia can transmit through saliva. On an average, upon stimulation, via kissing and during oro-genital sex, saliva production in a man can reach 4-5 ml per minute (similar to that of eating food or chewing) thus aiding transmission of std’s. So should you use saliva as lube during sex? Well be careful and be damn cautious. The last thing you want is to end up with a damn STD. Trust me, it takes you out. Most importantly, I am sure you do not want your partner to end up with genital ulcers or lesions post sex. is a bit unfair right? So, exercise caution and avoid using saliva as lube. Should you definitely need to use a lube, use K-Y jelly or coconut oil as lube (more so when fertility is not a goal). I hope you found this blog post on ‘can i use saliva as lube’ informative. Please do ask your questions below. This is Dr Shah, Consultant Andrologist and Sexologist. I will see you soon with another interesting post References Chow EP, Fairley CK. The role of saliva in gonorrhoea and chlamydia transmission to extragenital sites among men who have sex with men: new insights into transmission. Journal of the International AIDS Society. 2019 Aug;22:e25354. Templeton DJ, Jin F, McNally LP, Imrie JC, Prestage GP, Donovan B, Cunningham PH, Kaldor JM, Kippax S, Grulich AE. Prevalence, incidence and risk factors for pharyngeal gonorrhoea in a community-based HIV-negative cohort of homosexual men in Sydney, Australia. Sexually transmitted infections. 2010 Apr 1;86(2):90-6. Tulandi T, Plouffe Jr L, McInnes RA. Effect of saliva on sperm motility and activity. Fertility and sterility. 1982 Dec 1;38(6):721-3. Related Blogs Recent Blogs Having more doubts? Consult with our doctor Consult with Dr. Shah Leave Your Comment Cancel Reply Logged in as Dr Shah Dupesh. Log out? Δ
Can Masturbation Cause Delayed Ejaculation?
Yes – an intense or prone masturbation style can condition delayed ejaculation. A Chennai andrologist explains why, the medical causes to rule out, and how to fix it.
Does Masturbation Cause Premature Ejaculation?
Does masturbation cause premature ejaculation? Not the act — but rushed, finish-fast habits condition a fast reflex you can retrain. An andrologist explains.
Does Masturbation Cause Erection Problems?
A Chennai andrologist explains how porn-driven and compulsive masturbation cause psychogenic erectile dysfunction with a partner, why the ‘weakness’ is Dhat syndrome, and how it is treated.
Does Masturbation Cause Infertility?
A Chennai andrologist on whether masturbation causes infertility — the truth about sperm count, abstinence timing, what really lowers sperm count, and how to conceive.
How Long Does Sex Last? The Real Average, Explained by an Andrologist
How long does sex last? Here’s the honest answer, straight away: when researchers actually timed it with a stopwatch, the average lasted a median of about 5.4 minutes from penetration to ejaculation — what doctors call the intravaginal ejaculation latency time, or IELT (Waldinger, 2005). Not 30 minutes. Not an hour. About five and a half minutes — and that is completely normal. As a practising andrologist in Chennai, I am asked this almost every day, usually by a worried young man who is convinced that “real” sex should last half an hour and that he is failing some test. So let me set the record straight with the actual evidence, because the truth is far more reassuring than the myth — and once you see the real numbers, most of the worry simply disappears. Talk to Dr Shah Quick Facts The average is about 5.4 minutes. In a stopwatch study across five countries, the median time from penetration to ejaculation was 5.4 minutes (Waldinger, 2005). The “normal” range is huge. Real measured times ran from under one minute to over forty — there is no single correct number (Waldinger, 2009). “Desirable” is around 7–13 minutes. When sex therapists were asked, they rated 3–7 minutes “adequate” and 7–13 minutes “desirable” (Corty & Guardiani, 2008). Most men who feel “too quick” are actually normal. Men who believe they have premature ejaculation often have the same IELT distribution as everyone else (Janssen & Waldinger, 2019). Genuine premature ejaculation is a real, treatable threshold — roughly within one minute, with distress and loss of control (Serefoglu, 2014) — not just “a bit faster than the films.” So how long does sex actually last? Let me give you the single best piece of evidence we have, because almost no one quotes it properly. A landmark study put a stopwatch in the hands of 491 couples across five countries — the Netherlands, the UK, Spain, Turkey and the United States — and asked them to time intercourse, from penetration to ejaculation, over four weeks. The median came out at 5.4 minutes (Waldinger, 2005). That figure — the intravaginal ejaculation latency time, IELT — is the closest thing we have to a real answer to “how long does sex last.” Why the average sex time is only half the story But the average is only half the story, and the more important half is the spread. The measured times ranged from about half a minute at one end to forty-four minutes at the other, and the distribution was heavily skewed — most men clustered in the few-minute range, with a long tail of much longer times (Waldinger, 2005; Waldinger, 2009). In plain terms: there is no “correct” duration. A man finishing in three minutes and a man going twelve are both squarely within the normal range. Here is the part I most want you to hear, because it lifts a real weight off so many of my patients: men who are convinced they are too quick very often have exactly the same latency-time distribution as men who have no complaint at all (Janssen & Waldinger, 2019). The problem, in a large share of cases, is not the clock — it is the comparison to pornography, to exaggerated talk, and to a number that was never realistic in the first place. There is no single correct duration — the normal range runs from too short to too long, with the average sitting around five minutes. How long does sex last? The real durations at a glance Duration (penetration to ejaculation) What it means Under ~1 minute (with distress & no control) Likely premature ejaculation — treatable About 3–7 minutes “Adequate” — well within normal About 5.4 minutes (the median) The statistical average About 7–13 minutes Rated “desirable” by therapists Routinely 20–30+ minutes, unable to finish May be delayed ejaculation — worth checking How long should sex last? The desirable range “Average” and “should” are different questions, and the second one matters more to most couples. So when researchers asked sex therapists what a good duration actually is, the answers were clear and very human: intercourse of 1–2 minutes was judged “too short,” 3–7 minutes “adequate,” 7–13 minutes “desirable,” and anything past about 10–30 minutes “too long” (Corty & Guardiani, 2008). Notice where 5–6 minutes sits — comfortably inside “adequate,” brushing “desirable.” The number you were probably told to aim for, half an hour, is in the bracket the experts call too long. So let me answer the question I get in Hinglish almost daily — sex ka normal time kitna hota hai? Around five to ten minutes of penetration is a perfectly normal, healthy, satisfying duration. If you are landing anywhere in that band, you do not have a problem to fix. You have a number to stop worrying about. Worried you finish too soon? Talk to Dr Shah today. Book a Call What about foreplay and the whole encounter? Here is where the stopwatch studies can mislead, because they time only penetration. Real intimacy is not a sprint that begins at penetration and ends at ejaculation. A satisfying encounter usually runs much longer than the IELT suggests, because the part that most partners value most happens before and around penetration. In my clinic I tell couples to think in terms of the whole encounter: roughly 7–10 minutes of unhurried foreplay — kissing, touching, oral stimulation, simply being close — followed by 5 or so minutes of penetration, giving a total of around 12–15 minutes that feels generous and complete to both partners. That is not a rule with a stopwatch; it is a reminder that fixating on penetration time alone misses the point. Cross-cultural surveys of what men and women consider a normal, satisfying duration land in much the same place (Amidu & Owiredu, 2015). The clock measures one ingredient; intimacy is the whole meal. When “too quick” is actually premature ejaculation Now, I never wave away a real problem, so let me draw the